It’s good to talk

Do you know how important it is to talk to someone?

The other day I was at work feeling overwhelmed. Just suddenly everything got to be, feeling tired, my workload and the difficulties I’m having with LB, her behaviour and emotions are all over the place.

I could feel myself mentally sliding down that invisible slippery wall, the one where the hope of being able to stop yourself from falling flat on your face was a 99% possibility without help,

I wanted to pretend I was sick so I could go home. I felt useless, physically sick and alone.

I forced myself to stay at work. I put on that smile type grin showing everyone I was fine, no one needed to ask how I was, they could see I was fine.

After a horrific morning of walking around feeling like crap but pretending to the world that I was happy, it was lunch time. I wasn’t particularly hungry but I made myself sit in the staff room and eat. I knew if I didn’t eat I would feel worse.

While I was in there I could quite clearly hear other staff member saying what a awful morning they had had, how they felt exhausted and flat out. they felt like crap too. I just blurted out how inadequate I was feeling in my job and how as a mum I had a bad morning with LB.

I suddenly felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders talking to people who understood (ish) how I was feeling, that I was wasn’t alone and that actually it’s normal to have times when we are feeling low. Life can be hard.

It’s how I deal with my emotions and thoughts is what I need to work on.

It’s good to talk. Whether it’s face to face or on the phone.

Do you talk and off load your thoughts and feelings? If not please try, it’s so important to our mental health and well being to release our negative energies and hear that we are not alone.

Mum Muddling Through

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  1. October 11, 2018 / 1:41 pm

    I love to talk, if i dont it gets held in and thats not good. #coolmumclub

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:38 am

      No it’s not. Glad you are able to talk things out.

  2. October 12, 2018 / 6:34 am

    Yes! It’s is so good to talk, I know from experience that bottling it all up doesn’t help and you will eventually blow! I hope the sad and inadequate feelings have passed, I know how horrible they can be x

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:40 am

      I’m still not that good at talking about my feelings even though I know I should. Yes I am feeling much better now thank you.

  3. October 12, 2018 / 4:30 pm

    I’m so glad the universe sent you a little moment to allow yourself to feel you could open up. I too have been doing a lot of talking lately, and you are right, a problem shared really is a problem halved. If we all gave a little more time to each other to listen, it would make a huge difference. I hope you are feeling a little brighter now – thank you for sharing this important message with #CoolMumClub

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:42 am

      Yes it was like an opportunity arose and somehow I started talking without even realising I had started! I am feeling better thank you.

  4. October 12, 2018 / 5:38 pm

    I had a good work colleague when I lived in Wales and we used to have a good whinge with each other every now and then. It was good to talk and I really miss having that outlet.

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:42 am

      It’s important to have that outlet isn’t it. I hope you find someone you can talk too.

  5. October 12, 2018 / 6:16 pm

    I have a once a week get-together with a couple of girlfriends for a bloomin’ good natter over a coffee – I really miss the way it cheers me up if we miss a week.

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:43 am

      That is such a great idea! I could do with the same thing.

  6. October 13, 2018 / 5:37 am

    Love this post because what you’re staying is so right. I wear my heart on my sleeve so you can normally tell when somethings wrong. And I always feel better when I’ve talk and had a good cry! It helps me out things into perspective. Hope you’re feeling better lovely X

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:44 am

      Thank you, talking is so important, holding it all in isn’t good for us at all. I just need to learn to talk more often.

  7. Wendy
    October 13, 2018 / 5:53 am

    So sorry to read you were having such a hard day. I totally agree with you though, talking is so important. I always used to keep everything bottled up and I think that’s why I suffered so badly with pnd. Talking and sharing how we are feeling is so important, I’m glad it helped you to feel a little better xx

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:45 am

      I need to learn to talk more about my thoughts and feelings. That’s one of the reasons I started blogging.

  8. October 13, 2018 / 8:40 am

    i can so relate with your post , when i feel very low i always try and speak to someone even when i feel like i dont want to see anyone and i just need to push myself so i wont curl up in my self pity bubble as i call it – i use a good chat with a friend it to snap back out of it

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:47 am

      That’s exactly how it feels, like you just want to curl up and hide but talking releases something inside that stops that feeling.

  9. October 13, 2018 / 9:37 am

    I tend to bottle up a lot of stuff and it bubbles and then I explode so it is very true that you do need to get things off your chest as soon as possible. I find it incredibly hard to talk to people though so it is really difficult.

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 9:50 am

      Yes it’s really hard, i feel like no one needs to listen to me moan and my problems. I guess it’s finding someone who will listen. For me it tends to be my hubby or sister.

  10. October 13, 2018 / 1:05 pm

    I completely relate to this. I suffer with anxiety but am always surprised how talking to someone makes me feel better.

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 13, 2018 / 3:32 pm

      It does make such a difference doesn’t it.

  11. October 14, 2018 / 5:08 pm

    I’m afraid to say that I bottle everything up until exploding point. I think I get this from my mum who was so worried about what people think of her and we were always told not to make a show of her. I wish I could be a bit more open but having had my fingers burnt by previous friends I tend to keep all thoughts to myself.

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 23, 2018 / 2:52 pm

      That’s such a shame that you have had those experiences. I do hope you can one day find someone you can trust and talk too. I am still careful about what i say and to who but I have found a few close friends i can talk too.

  12. October 17, 2018 / 7:33 pm

    I think it’s important to remember we’re all in this together! Great sentiments in this post! #coolmumclub

    • LifeasMrsB
      October 23, 2018 / 2:53 pm

      Yes we are! Thanks 🙂

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